Why do people feel the need to fit in so much?

You have a good salaried job, you are talented in your genre, but are you talented enough to tackle external influence? Even though you have worked hard, showed great talent in turning things around, been a good team player; your senior perception towards you, the office politics play a role in truly converting your efforts into your growth. We all want to stay in a certain zone, lets call it our comfort zones, which prevents us from doing a lot of things.

And we do not bother about things that do not affect us directly. Isn't? This makes us pick up the majority, which will form the mediocrity of the group and hence feel the need to fit in so much.

The Real Situation

The very fact that you are not always working alone has to have some influence over the ongoing situations. In many cases, your passion towards growth is considered negative by many people especially perceived as a way to suppress others’ growth, thereby accumulating a group of people going against you. Initially, you focus on your growth between the work and tackling this negativity, unknowingly becoming a pawn in office politics. As you gain more and more experience, spend more and show minimal effect by others negativity. As this negativity accumulates and grows stronger, you are forced to act against the negativity. Once you start this approach, your focus and energy gets distributed time in corporates, you have to face more negativity in order to stand different, maintain your growth against all odds, ultimately draining a lot of energy in these unnecessary factors, which apparently are now a part and parcel of your job. Of course, after some years, you are going to get exhausted and slowly start to fit into a groove that is acceptable to everyone, thereby compromising on you traits. Further, family burdens and other persons reasons can add more weight to this already heavy issues. So, a good, safe and comfortable option is to fit in.

Should You Fit In?

"The more you put efforts in the right direction, the more your growth is. Even though, external factors keep affecting, it matters how one takes it and how these factors translated into outcomes. In short, your success depends on how you react to the environment, and how your decisions are made."

When you look at the company as a whole, you see a lot of people falling trap to this situation, of course to avoid negativity from others. And it is evident for everyone of us. And isn't negativity everywhere?

Yet it is up to you to decide how much to accept, absorb and act about. More importantly, how much you respond than react?